The age-old question: how to ghost someone without being a total jerk.
Let's face it, we've all been there. Maybe you went on a date with someone and there just wasn't a spark. Or maybe you were talking to someone on a dating app and they turned out to be a bit of a creep. Or maybe you just need some time to yourself and don't feel like explaining it to your friend who won't stop texting you. Whatever the case may be, ghosting can be a tricky business. But fear not, my friends! With a little finesse and some strategic ghosting tactics, you can disappear from someone's life like a pro.
First things first: why do people ghost? There are a lot of reasons, and they're not all necessarily bad. Sometimes, it's just a matter of time and energy. Let's say you've been talking to someone on a dating app for a few days and you're just not feeling it. You don't owe them anything - you're not in a relationship, and you haven't even met in person. In that case, it's perfectly fine to just stop responding. However, if you've been on a few dates or you've been friends for a while, ghosting can be a bit more complicated.
So, how do you ghost someone without being a total jerk? Here are a few tips:
Be honest (sort of): Okay, I know I just said you can disappear without explanation, but hear me out. If you've been on a few dates with someone and you're just not feeling it, it's okay to say something like, "Hey, I had a great time getting to know you, but I don't think we're a good match." You don't owe them a detailed explanation, but a little bit of honesty can go a long way.
Use the fadeaway: This is the classic ghosting move. You gradually reduce your communication with the person until they get the hint. If you're going to use the fadeaway, make sure you're not leaving them hanging - if they text you, respond, but keep your responses short and to the point. Eventually, they'll realize you're not interested.
Be clear about your boundaries: If someone is being too pushy or aggressive, it's okay to tell them that you need some space. You don't have to disappear completely, but you can set some boundaries and let them know that you need some time to yourself. Also if you decide to ghost someone you better not be sliding into there LinkedIn DMs at 2:30 am on the next bar night.
Make it about you, not them: This is a tricky one, but it can be effective. If you're ghosting someone because you just need some time to yourself, try framing it in a way that's about you, not them. For example, you could say something like, "Hey, I've been feeling really overwhelmed lately and I need to take a break from socializing for a bit." That way, they're less likely to take it personally.
Don't be a total jerk: Look, I get it. Sometimes, people can be annoying or pushy or just plain awful. But that doesn't mean you should be a jerk about it. Remember, the person you're ghosting is a human being with feelings. Treat them with respect and kindness, even if you're not interested in pursuing a relationship or friendship.
And there you have it, folks - the art of ghosting. Remember, ghosting isn't always the best option, but sometimes it's necessary. If you're going to do it, do it with
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